How much do you want to change yourself?
Here are a number of personality traits that you may or may not want to change within yourself. Please rate the extent to which you
want to change each trait.
Many of the following statements will ask you about your relationship with your romantic partner. If you are not currently in a romantic relationship, you may think about a previous romantic partner, your romantic relationships in general, or even your closest friend.
1.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who tells my partner just about everything.
2.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who is satisfied even with relationships characterized
by less closeness and attention than I would ideally want.
3.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who fully expresses who I am and what I need to romantic partners.
4.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be comfortable being very close to romantic partners.
5.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who keeps a bit of distance between me and my partner.
6.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who turns to my romantic partner in times of need.
7.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who worries about how I measure up to other people.
8.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be unconcerned about rejection or abandonment.
9.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to spend a lot of time thinking about my relationships.
10.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who is concerned about whether my partner is interested in other people.
11.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who has no doubts about myself in romantic relationships.
12.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who discusses my feelings with my partner.
13.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who is comfortable depending on romantic partners.
14.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who requires a lot of affection and support from my partner.
15.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who is affectionate with my partner.
16.To what extent do you want to change yourself?
I want to be someone who occasionally contemplates whether my partner really loves me.
